Rukhsar
Who I am
- I am a messenger of the True Traditional Zen Teachings of non-duality.
- Our True Nature is that we are Conscious Creators of our reality. We are Eternal and formless. At the same time, we’ve chosen to come down here into a physical body and a mental mind. I accept that, and I don’t avoid the Human aspect.
- In fact, I vigorously encourage others to integrate their Humanity into their spiritual practice. We are body-mind-soul. We laugh, cry and get mad. It’s okay to be a Human!
- I am someone who has made lots of mistakes. I’ve also had many successes. I put my pants on one leg at a time, too. I’m just like you, and I’m here to let you know that YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE LIKE I DID.
- I am totally satisfied with Life. I’m not kidding.
- I have a propensity for science, engineering, and math, and I’m good at explaining these in a simple way. I also LOVE music, art, and food.
- I am a wonderful rascal who will do anything to help anyone ready to receive what I have to offer.
Who I am not
I am not another run-of-the-mill online spiritual “guru” hiding behind the “spiritual” label while leading you to the same old cycles in life. This “spiritual-in-name-only” method even has a name: “spiritual bypassing.”
Spiritual bypassing is the dangerous and toxic practice of using phony spiritual modalities and “new age” cover to avoid certain emotions or situations in life.
Examples of spiritual bypassing include:
- Overemphasis on the positive.
- Anger-phobia, e.g., being shamed or shaming yourself for experiencing this emotion.
- Weak or too porous boundaries - usually caused by the above two points
- Blind or overly tolerant compassion instead of authentic, meaningful, and appropriate compassion - this ties in with weak or porous boundaries
- Emotional numbing and repression - all of the above
- Placing cognitive intelligence ahead of emotional intelligence instead of balancing the two.
- Debilitating levels of self-judgment about one’s shadow side - a product of the peer pressure to “only be positive” from the so-called “spiritual community” online… Negative emotions are generally considered a failure in today’s spiritual marketplace. Instead of denying these feelings, I will teach you to accept them first and then create positive outcomes from your hardships.
- Devaluing the personal and placing too much emphasis on the spiritual.
- Delusions of having arrived at a greater level of being, “holier-than-thou” attitudes.
- And worst of all: GASLIGHTING. You know gaslighting is happening if you point out any of the above items to a “spiritual guru” who is doing any of these things… and then they claim they aren’t doing them
Me? I don’t think I’m better than anyone else. I have gone through all the same struggles you have.
I don’t try to force my message onto others. People will arrive at The True Spiritual Journey when they are ready. You can’t change others… and you don’t need to. My message is on the internet… but I have no expectation that it will be accepted by anyone. You are free to take it or leave it.
I have no desire to change society. I’m not here to peer pressure you or anyone into changing. Yes, I am very convicted of my beliefs, and I will maintain them even if they are attacked… but I have no preference as to whether they are actually accepted or not.
I’m not a revolutionary who is on a mission to change others. I will never place expectations on anyone, no matter how much I believe in my own beliefs. I operate this way because I have good boundaries.
I realize that True Change happens from within… so I don’t need to change anyone. People will change when they are ready to receive the message. You are here because you’re probably ready to receive it.